New Territory
Tax season is in full swing now. We are very busy in the office right now... and it has only just begun! We are breaking records daily. I've never been so busy! It is awesome.
I'm glad I hired FdM.
He's smart, he's experienced, and he's fun to work with.
When things slowed down this afternoon, he came into my office to talk. About what the two of us are doing, and where it's leading.
The two of us agree that neither of us should be getting into a serious relationship right now. We both recently had our spouse leave us. He told me that above all else, he doesn't want to lose me as a friend.
I kept smiling the whole time he was talking. I couldn't help it... he really cares about me. The more he spoke, the happier I was. I have always believed a strong friendship is the foundation of a good relationship. And right now, he wants to build on that friendship.
We are going to meet for coffee tomorow to talk about it. The office isn't a good place for that.
He stroked my hair, then turned to leave. When he got to my office door, he turned and came back. He apologised for it. I got mad at him a week ago for patting me on the head, so he was afraid I would be offended. I told him I wasn't.
FdM stood there looking at me, trying to puzzle something out. Then he asked "how do you like to be shown affection?" The question caught me by surprise. I had to say "I don't know." I thought for a minute, and said "I don't think anyone ever has."
He was thinking about that as he left.
I've been thinking about it, too.
In 18 years of marriage, I have received less affection from JJ than I have received from FdM in the last month.
Sex is not affection. Sex should be accompanied by affection, but "should" does not equal "does". The only time JJ ever showed me any affection at all was when he wanted sex. Any time I tried to show affection towards JJ, I was ignored.
FdM responds to every word, every touch. I really enjoy having him around.
Right now, we both need to heal. A strong friendship can help us do that. If that friendship grows into something more, I'll let it. If it doesn't, I'll hold on to what we do have.
Friends are a very special kind of family. They are worth more than all the material wealth in the world. Friends are worth any sacrifice.
Tax season is in full swing now. We are very busy in the office right now... and it has only just begun! We are breaking records daily. I've never been so busy! It is awesome.
I'm glad I hired FdM.
He's smart, he's experienced, and he's fun to work with.
When things slowed down this afternoon, he came into my office to talk. About what the two of us are doing, and where it's leading.
The two of us agree that neither of us should be getting into a serious relationship right now. We both recently had our spouse leave us. He told me that above all else, he doesn't want to lose me as a friend.
I kept smiling the whole time he was talking. I couldn't help it... he really cares about me. The more he spoke, the happier I was. I have always believed a strong friendship is the foundation of a good relationship. And right now, he wants to build on that friendship.
We are going to meet for coffee tomorow to talk about it. The office isn't a good place for that.
He stroked my hair, then turned to leave. When he got to my office door, he turned and came back. He apologised for it. I got mad at him a week ago for patting me on the head, so he was afraid I would be offended. I told him I wasn't.
FdM stood there looking at me, trying to puzzle something out. Then he asked "how do you like to be shown affection?" The question caught me by surprise. I had to say "I don't know." I thought for a minute, and said "I don't think anyone ever has."
He was thinking about that as he left.
I've been thinking about it, too.
In 18 years of marriage, I have received less affection from JJ than I have received from FdM in the last month.
Sex is not affection. Sex should be accompanied by affection, but "should" does not equal "does". The only time JJ ever showed me any affection at all was when he wanted sex. Any time I tried to show affection towards JJ, I was ignored.
FdM responds to every word, every touch. I really enjoy having him around.
Right now, we both need to heal. A strong friendship can help us do that. If that friendship grows into something more, I'll let it. If it doesn't, I'll hold on to what we do have.
Friends are a very special kind of family. They are worth more than all the material wealth in the world. Friends are worth any sacrifice.
posted by Tempeste at Friday, March 02, 2007
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