JJ Is Irritating Me Again

It is about the separation agreement and divorce again.

He wants me to amend the separation agreement to disolve the Print Shop. So, I wrote an amendment disolving the Print Shop and giving him all of the related assets. After all, they were purchased with money borrowed from his mother.

As part of the amendment, I wrote in that if JJ were to use those assets in a business endeavour again, excluding the production of his own artwork, that the terms of the original agreement would be reinstated.

JJ did not like that.

JJ said "it sounds like if I ever operate a Print Shop again, you get 10%".

"That's right," I answered.

"But then I'll never be free of you," he whined. "I don't want to be attached to you for the rest of my life."

"You should have thought of that before you married me," I stated.



The original agreement gives me 10% of all profits from the Print Shop.

He does not think I am entitled to that, since I have never been a printer.

He forgets that I supported him financially while he apprenticed at another print shop.

He forgets that I took care of all the paperwork -- sales tax remittance, income tax filing, brochure design, web design. I did all of the behind-the-scenes work.

He forgets all the lonely nights I spent at home while he was out networking with artists, trying to drum up business.

He forgets that I never once said "This isn't working. You should give up."

No.

All he can say to justify himself is "you never supported me".

If he does not consider these things as "supporting him", then what does he consider support?

Then he says "If you get 10% of the Print Shop, then I get 10% of any photography income you make, because I supported you while you got your education."

"No you didn't," I replied. "I funded my education with my student loans. You were a student, too, with your own student loans. We never had a photography business, so there was nothing for you to contribute to."



I really don't care about the Print Shop. I really don't care if I get 10% of profits or not.

What I care about is Principles.

I am not going to let him get away with discarding me so he doesn't have to give me my share.

Three and a half years ago, when I wrote our first Separation Agreement, he had absolutely no problem with me receiving 10% of profits. In fact, he defended my entitlement against his mother.

So why is it a problem now?

Is he so greedy that he is blinded to my rights?

Or does he just want to spend the money on HER?

Right now, there is no money. The Print Shop is not making any money... it never has. This 10% he is arguing with me about is Potential... it does not even exist.

And I am unwilling to let go of my share of that Potential. After all, 10% of future Potential is equal to 10 years of past profit: $0.

Why should I accept less than that?